Failure And Brokenness

Posted by on Sep 12, 2016 in Dadhood | 4 Comments

Failure and Brokenness

You have probably noticed that things have been a bit quiet around here recently. I haven’t written anything and posted it here for a while.

This is because I feel so unworthy to write and maintain a website dedicated to being a good dad, when I fail at this myself all to often.

Writing articles that are encouraging to others when it comes to being intentional seems so hypocritical when I can look to my own family and see how I have failed time and again to do and be those things with my own kids and with my own wife.

As a result, I am having a hard time with this.

I have not totally given up on this though. As I gain some traction with my own kids, and find things that help me be more of the dad I am called to be, I will continue to share them here. I’m not certain what that will look like, or how often it will happen. But I plan to keep this thing going.

As a dad, I have failed time after time with my kids. I fail as an example. I fail when it comes to my temper. I fail because I put myself ahead of them. I fail because I am inconsistent. I fail because I let them down. I fail because of my own attitudes. And I am not the dad they need me to be.

And that is very discouraging to me. How can I be a support to others when my own house is in such disarray?

I don’t know the answer to that.

What I do know is that I would like to have your prayers. I want to be the best dad that I can be to my kids, and the best husband I can be to my wife. I want them to look back on these years, the years of their childhoods, and recall a dad who loved them and did his best to be the best dad he could be. I don’t want them to remember their childhood with shame and resentment.

I need to be more consistent.

I would appreciate it if you would remember me in your prayers, asking God to help me be that dad.

And, as I am able, I’ll continue to share this journey with you all.

Be deliberate, Dad!

How do you stay encouraged as a dad? What do you do to help you be the dad you are called to be? You can leave your thoughts in the comments below.

4 Comments

  • Wow. It’s like reading my own thoughts. I’ve had a couple of good days, but only after weeks of struggle. I will pray for you, you pray for me. Teach because you can, not because you are perfect. Men need help through their own failure.

  • Dear Jeff,
    Thanks for sharing process as a father trying to love and build his home according to Godly standards, by now i am well aware too as a dad that building correctly and accurately is by itself warfare, i shall pray for the grace of God to flow in this area and be encouraged by His word below, lets keep at it, Thanks as always.
    Proverbs 24:16 For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, But the wicked stumble in time of calamity.

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